Archive for September, 2014

What does it mean to be “responsible?”

September 29, 2014

While visiting with a friend, we began talking about the different ways we are responsible. One of those ways is thinking we are to take on other people’s problems. And of course, we cannot. Jesus is the only one who can truly CARRY anyone. It’s a deception if we think we are going to fix people, only God can.

As I was thinking about the people in my life that need healing, a miracle, a financial break through, it just got overwhelming. Then the LORD said, It’s not your responsibility. As I thought on that, I began thinking of my husband and daily thinking of how I can make his life better. It would get exhausting at times, yet the Lord showed me I can’t make anyone happy. They have to do it for themselves. I was able to separate that responsibility from me, and now I can simply enjoy my husband where he is at. Then other things like a friend in need. We do what we can, but we are not responsible for their decisions and outcome. I had to separate my thoughts from that person too, and now I can enjoy them. And the list goes on and on. The only one I am responsible for is me… and even in that, I’m the Lords’ (As I shared in my previous blog).

If everyone was responsible for their own lives, I believe our world would be much different, don’t you think?


How to walk in patience…

September 29, 2014

I just returned from a much needed vacation along the coast of California. Truly refreshing and was filled with so much peace, so much so, I didn’t want to come home! But of course, that is not reality. So as I was driving home yesterday, I got this download… “When you are NOT your own, you will have peace. Peace produces the fruit of the spirit.”

As I pondered on that, it’s very true. When we are staying at a hotel or friends house, we have no cares. No worries, nothing because none of those things are ours. But when we get home, we see all our STUFF looming at us to be taken care of. However, if we are NOT our own (but God’s) neither is anything we own. None of it’s ours. It’s just here for our use. That is why the scriptures say that if someone wants to borrow something, let them. And if you don’t get it back, oh well… When we think it’s OURS we may fall into unforgiveness and bitterness.

If we look at all our STUFF in the attitude “It’s not mine, and I’m not mine.. all is God’s” then we would truly live in the fruit of the spirit! We would be patient producing more peaceful lives.

I put this too the test too. As I was driving there were several cars pushing from behind to get me to move over or drive faster. So instead of getting irritated I remembered this principle. This car is not mine, this lane is not mine, I didn’t get frustrated or irritated, I simply moved over because I had patience, which then produced peace.

By thinking this way in EVERYTHING not in just what we own (or think we own), it produces patience. And patience opens us up to having all the other fruit of the spirit: Longsuffering, gentleness, meekness, etc. because nothing is ours!!!! It is truly freeing.

I was reading in Corinthians where they had all things in common. The rich sold what they had and everyone put everything they OWNED in a pot and it was divided evenly among everyone so no one lacked. There was not any Haves or Have nots in that community. Because they learned that nothing is theirs anyway, and anything they got was from God in the first place. If only we had this mindset ourselves, well, I think this world would be a much different place today. So… I decided to simplify my life… first by repenting for having a “mine” attitude, and secondly, going to go through the house and get rid of unnecessary clutter and stuff. I look forward to this clean-up and purging, as I learn to live in patience… even towards myself.

Gluten Free?

September 15, 2014

I just got a call from my doctor doing a follow up on an appointment I had. One thing led to another and I told her I was having stomach problems. We began talking about eating gluten free. She suggested I try that for a couple of months and see what happens.

I shared this with Tom and I began saying that I would like to cut out gluten for a bit to see what happens. I was saying that it’s in the wheat. As we rallied back and forth, he said, “What is gluten?” I was stunned a moment and said, “Ya know, I don’t know!” We both laughed so hard and then he said, “Isn’t it a basic thing to know what it is? How can we get rid of something that we don’t know? Then he said, lets get rid of the word gluten out of our vocabulary… bad word, bad word.” And we laughed again!

But I Go To Church!!!

September 13, 2014

Let’s say that you just went to church and on the way home you got a flat tire. What happens? We start saying, “Why did this happen, I was just at church!!”

Well, the Lord opened my heart up to this thought process that has changed the way I connect what I do with how I get blessed. We somehow expect to be blessed through that deed.

Many are connecting their good deeds with bad things that may happen. They then say, “But God, why did you let this happen to me, don’t you see what I did for that person the other day?”

Our blessings (or not being blessed) is not connected in any way to what we are doing.

Yes, we do reap what we sow, and many say if you sow corn, you get corn, and that is true. But I dug a bit deeper, because I have given 3 cars away, so where is my car to reap?? What I have found is that when we think that way, we put restrictions on what God wants to give. Because whatever we give or do, is no where close to what God can give us. But if we expect to GET what we GIVE we are limiting God.

So when I do a “good deed” it’s simply a “good deed.” Jesus went about doing good, did he get anything back?

That has to be our mind set too and when we think this way we free ourselves, others and even God.
James 1:25 But whoso looketh into the perfect law of liberty, and continueth therein, he being not a forgetful hearer, but a doer of the work, this man shall be blessed in his deed.

This passage says a person shall be blessed IN his deed, not FOR his deed. By continuing in the Truth, by obeying what God has said, by being a “doer of the Word” THEN you shall be blessed, and that type of blessing can only come from God.

Would Love To Meet You!

September 10, 2014

Hello followers of my blog and new friends just tuning in. I wanted to invite you to attend a conference I am doing Oct. 24-25th at the Holiday Inn in El Dorado Hills, Ca. Perhaps many of you are not in the area, but would like to share this with you for your prayer support. We trust the event is going to change many lives, as we will be talking about how relationships are important to our health, what are some basic steps for victorious living, restoring hope when all was lost, forgiving and receiving forgiveness without a But…, learning to really “receive” God’s love personally, and more… as these things will help enhance our lives as believers. Come with us on this amazing journey, if you can, and hope we can meet face to face! You can view more on my website at

What we think may not be what is really happening

September 9, 2014

Again, I have realized that my thoughts do not relay truth all the time. And here is one of those incidents:
I spent some time with a friend the other day, and had a great day. But the following day I began thinking of what I said to her… if I may have offended her in any way. Then I began getting hurt that perhaps she won’t be my friend any more. Then I began thinking of what I could have done to cause her to not want to be my friend any more. Now… as you can see, this was all transpiring in my head. It was tormenting. I couldn’t take my mind off of it… well…not until I did something about it. See, I don’t really know what she is thinking… So I took it to the Lord and said, “Father, I do see that I may have been a bit impatient at one point during the day with her, so I ask for your forgiveness. And I won’t think of what I think she’s thinking at all, it’ll all make itself known in time. And if I need to ask for forgiveness, then You will lead me to that.” See, I did realize that when I saw the truth about my own heart, that’s when I got free and from that point on,  I didn’t have a second thought about that issue. I know that my heart was made clean and if the Lord sets it up for me to share this with her, then so be it.

So this is what happened next: I  received a call from her and she was all excited about getting together with me again. I didn’t sense any offense at all. It was something I had transpired in my head because of my own guilt. This is a good reminder for us all… When we “think” for others we are really “thinking” of ourselves.

What Am I Doing Wrong?????

September 4, 2014

Have you ever asked yourself (or God) that question? What am I doing wrong? Why am I not getting well? Why are all these things happening to me?

I had asked that same question this week after having another thee-day headache! I know what headaches are from… several things actually… but the main thing is self-conflict.
So, what was I doing wrong? What was my self-conflict? I began praying for forgiveness and cleansing of all sin, defilement, etc. I even forgave everyone involved in my day. But still no relief… Then as I asked God, truly from my heart, “What is it I’m doing wrong?” He immediately said, “Ask yourself, what are you NOT doing?”
As I thought on that… I realized what I wasn’t doing was loving myself!!! I knew that was right because I began tearing up. I was so busy “trying” to appease others, trying to make sure everyone else was alright, but I wasn’t alright.

It seemed I would get a headache when I felt like I was disappointing someone. I got mad at myself, without getting mad at myself… if you know what I mean. I didn’t even realize I was mad at myself.. it actually looks like blaming or something else… when in fact it’s about me not loving myself.

I realized I wasn’t having UNCONDITIONAL LOVE and FORGIVENESS towards myself!!

Wow.. and can I tell you that after I realized that and gave myself a hug, the tears came and my heart was restored to peace! The headache subsided and I went about my day.

We forget to love ourselves.
How do we love ourselves? We release ourselves from being perfect! That’s as simple as I can put it.